OK,
Mystery solved. My top yoke holes were full of clear powder coat. No black, just clear

Makes me wonder if my parts didnt get screwed up with someone elses during the process, because I did not want a clear over coat.
The only reason I found this was because I pulled it back apart and noticed crap in the taper. I wasn't even sure what it was at first, but my immediate thought was that I had shaved metal off trying to pull in the stanchion.
I coated the surface around the top clamp holes with grease to protect what I did want, then used Aircraft stripper and Q-Tips to get the clear junk soft enough to remove.
I should not be surprised. They managed to fill half my tapped holes damn near full with the black even after I marked them all so they could plug them.
Its just something I am going to have to be aware of moving forward, some of my parts were hit with clear.
Here is the little puller I made. I did not turn threads on the one end so it can be turned over and used to knock the legs back without smacking the top yoke.